Monthly Archive: March 2016
Oh, that was a very bad omen, really. It is difficult for me to imagine what a “feminist” husband would be, considering that for more than four decades, feminists have argued against marriage, per se.
Exactly why would a feminist want a husband? This is the great riddle.
Fish don’t need bicycles and feminists don’t need men. Such was the doctrine proclaimed by Gloria Steinem, anyway, but nevertheless some women ignore these contradictions and thus, sadly, we have the phenomenon of The Feminist Man. These seem so rare they may be entirely mythical — unicorns, minotaurs, mermaids, Feminist Men.
In theory, a relationship based on a radical egalitarian ideology seems possible. However, feminism’s doctrinaire belief that men and women are fundamentally the same (androgynous) and that there are no natural distinctions between them, inevitably raises the question, “Why”?
That is to say, if men do not possess any specifically masculine traits or characteristics that she admires, why does she associate with him? What purpose does The Feminist Man fulfill? What is his value to her?
According to feminist theory, masculinity is an artificial product of patriarchy, socially constructed by the gender binary within theheterosexual matrix. The male has no essential raison d’être in the feminist scheme of things. He is entirely useless and irrelevant and it is impossible to imagine how a woman who finds males attractive — desirable and perhaps even necessary — could call herself a “feminist.”
Nevertheless, despite these ideological contradictions, The Feminist Man is alleged to exist, and here is the tale of a woman who married one:
I lived happily — blissfully unaware how happily — for 14 years with a man who seemed sensitive, kind, intelligent, liberal, and feminist. We were deeply in love and the kind of couple people looked up to. My marriage was permanent; it defined my future. Two years ago, I would have told you we were unshakable. I couldn’t imagine a scenario that could break us up. My husband was also, to all outward appearances, happy. He enjoyed life and was uniquely easygoing and content. Those qualities made him a joy to chat with, to vacation with, and to live with.
Then my husband woke up one day feeling a little “gender-fluid.” Within three months he developed the conviction that he was a woman and he “came out” to everyone he knew. . . .
He cried because someone “misgendered” him. He cried because his shoulders were too broad for his new dress. He cried because he couldn’t completely eradicate the stubble on his face. He cried because his new habit of flipping his hair back with a limp wrist had gotten him mistaken for a gay man. . . .
He got counseling and joined support groups, where he “learned” that he was “literally” a woman, and not just someone who identified as one. He announced to all comers thathe’d found his “true self” and had become “happy” for the first time in his life. His alleged happiness didn’t stop him from spiraling into an even deeper despair. He became suicidal. He was prescribed antidepressants. He adopted bizarre beliefs and became hysterical if anyone questioned them.
All interests were abandoned for endless monologues about transgender rights and his “gender identity.”
Yeah, she married The Feminist Man, and when he turned out to be not actually a man at all — well, she was deeply hurt by this. She searched online forums of other women who had gone through a similar trauma:
This is just the transgender experience. Narcissism, sexual dysfunction, partner neglect, childishness, temper tantrums,lack of impulse control. Tell me again why this is a normal human variation?
It didn’t matter that I thought my marriage was stronger than most, that I thought that my husband was smarter and kinder than most.This was my inevitable trajectory.
Inevitable? Well, if you find The Feminist Man attractive — so “sensitive”! so “kind”! so “liberal”! — what do you really expect? Somewhere behind that “easygoing” façade, your husband was slowly losing his mind as he gazed into the abyss of existential despair. To repeat: The male has no essential raison d’être in the feminist scheme of things.
Feminism is a philosophy that declares men to be utterly useless. It is astonishing how so many women are eager to advocate “equality” — i.e., the eradication of all social distinctions between male and female — and yet do not follow this argument to its logical conclusion.
“Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools . . .”
— Romans 1:22 (KJV)
Once a society embraces certain ideas — syncretistic paganism, for example — the descent into madness is really just a matter of time.
What can I say about @AmySchumer? Only what I have said so often before: Feminism Is a Totalitarian Movement to Destroy Civilization as We Know It, and the kind of “humor” that emerges from a totalitarian death cult is Amy Schumer’s stock in trade. She is the 21st-century heiress to the caustic legacy of Roseanne Barr, Rosie O’Donnell, Janeane Garofalo and Margaret Cho. Schumer arguably has great talent as a clown, but her stock-in-trade is the expression of resentment, which makes her hugely popular with women who share a similarly resentful attitude. If you’re my age — 56, and old enough to remember the Great Standup Comic Cable TV Bonzanza of the 1980s — you’ve seen this act before. There is a familiarity to Schumer’s deliberately vulgar routine (“We are whores. . . . I’ve taken the morning-after pill the night before”) and yet you may not recognize where this style comes from.
Basically, she is a feminist version of Andrew Dice Clay. “Feminist humor” is merely a reversal of that over-the-top sexist act, a type of humor that male comedians are no longer allowed to employ.
This is why so many young guys (and by “young,” I mean, under 40) react to the strictures of political correctness as badly as they do. Young guys have grown up in a world where so much is off-limits — sexist, racist, homophobic or otherwise “offensive” — that they feel like they’re cornered and under surveillance by the Thought Police. And so they delight in saying Things You Are Not Supposed to Say, an atavistic impulse. Look, I have never in my life felt the need to hurl certain slurs at women. There are some words (hint: starting with “C”) that you simply do not say, certainly not if you wish to take the high ground in opposition to feminists. Nor do you score any points for the cause of heteronormative patriarchy if your stock response to a feminist’s argument is to call her fat, ugly and “unf–kable.” Even if a feminist looks like John Goodman in drag, you probably don’t want to be the guy to point this out.
Permit me to explain, to any clueless young men who might read this, that women are keenly aware that they are judged by their looks. Whether she is thin or fat, pretty or plain, there is no such thing as a woman who is not conscious of her own appearance, and who does not have some general sense of where she ranks in the hierarchy of attractiveness.
A reasonably good-looking woman, by the time she’s 18 or 19, knows exactly why the guy she meets at a party or in a bar is so eager to talk to her. And here is your cosmic thunderbolt of eternal truth, young man:Women are extremely judgmental.
Trust me when I tell you this, young man. Do not ever imagine that you can evade a woman’s radar in terms of what she wants.
One way to be a loser is to waste your time trying to overcome a woman’s instantaneous default “no.” You could spend years arguing with losers on pickup artist (PUA) forums about tactics, but you are never going to change human nature. Every woman’s default response is “no,” and if you can’t cope with rejection — if you don’t learn to walk away the minute she signals disinterest — you are squandering valuable time and energy.
Some guys (the upper 10% or 15% of overall attractiveness) can score reliably enough in almost any pickup scenario that they don’t really need “tactics” at all. What the rest of you fellows must learn is to stop wasting time trying to convert a “no” to a “yes,” or brooding over your failures.
Guys, if you’re at a frat party, when you approach a girl, understand this: She has sized you up — evaluating you in terms of your desirability — before you even say a word to her. Therefore, if her response to your opening line is not a total green-light reaction, take it in stride and move on. Just remember there are 3.5 billion women on this planet.
Maintain your cool, young man. Don’t flip out, don’t get angry, and don’t let yourself become demoralized by the fact that this girl shot you down. Just keep on blowing down the road, Mister Breeze.
Women are extremely judgmental, as I say, and once you figure that out, every variety of nonsensical feminist whining about “objectification” and “beauty standards” is exposed as rank hypocrisy. But I digress . . .
Amy Schumer is allowed to get away with doing the kind of vulgar sexual humor that might destroy a male comedian’s career nowadays. It was hilarous, back in the day, the first time I saw female stand-up comics “working blue,” as they say. The novelty factor has long since worn off, however, and what we increasingly see is women using sexual “humor” to score political points, rather than actually entertaining anyone who isn’t down for the feminist agenda. Now we must pay attention to this:
Amy Schumer has scolded “The Bachelor” host Chris Harrison for calling a contestant “complicated,” as if it’s a negative characteristic of a woman.
“There is nothing wrong with ‘complicated’ women Chris Harrison,” Schumer tweeted. “You treated it like something she should fight. A women shouldn’t try to be less complicated so as to hopefully attract a man. And she shouldn’t find value in herself just because a dude liked her. Come on bro.”
On Monday night, the show’s “Women Tell All” special aired, where past contestants from the current season come together to discuss what went wrong and get one last opportunity to tell the bachelor (this year, it’s Ben Higgins) what is on their minds. One contestant, Jubilee Sharpe, told Harrison that Higgins didn’t see her “complicated past as a huge obstacle,” to which Harrison called her complicated twice.
“I know you can’t control how complicated you are,” he told Sharpe. “You might be complicated, and I know you stir the pot sometimes, but I hope you realize you’re a pretty special woman, and I really appreciate you coming here and opening up the way you did.”
See? Amy Schumer is playing Thought Police here. While I make a point of avoiding toxic “reality TV” garbage like The Bachelor, and really don’t want to discuss that phony drama, Harrison wasn’t saying anything offensive. And pardon me for disagreeing with Ms. Schumer in her role as Commissar of Feminist Thought Police, but men are entitled to their own opinions about the traits they like or dislike in women.
Lecturing men that there’s “nothing wrong with ‘complicated’ women” may make Amy Schumer feel good about herself, and a thousand of her fans can show their agreement by retweeting her lecture, but that is not going to improve Jubilee Sharpe’s prospects for marital success. For all I know, maybe Jubilee Sharpe will make some lucky guy a wonderful wife, but when a woman speaks of herself as having a “complicated past,” couldn’t this be viewed as a flashing caution light for any guy evaluating her as a potential bride? Marriage is a high-stakes game, and it is best for a man to be careful in assessing his selection.
Why do you suppose 34-year-old Amy Schumer has never been married? Perhaps, like feminists generally, Ms. Schumer is against marriage.
“Marriage means rape and lifelong slavery,” Ti-Grace Atkinson declared, and her comrade Sheila Cronan called marriage “cruel and inhumane.”One could cite many more examples of feminists denouncing marriage as a prison, an institution in which women are oppressed by male supremacy, and so it would be insulting to any woman who calls herself a “feminist” to presume she has ever had any desire to marry a man.
Isn’t it also true, however, that Amy Schumer is “complicated”? This is the case with most feminists, really. They are “complicated,” they have “issues,” and their political agenda is transparently a matter of rationalizing their grievances and justifying their resentments.
This is not to say that Amy Schumer (or any other feminist) does not have actual reasons to be resentful. The problem with feminism, as with any other radical egalitarian ideology, is that rearranging the world to fit a political agenda is a poor substitute for dealing with your own problems as an individual. The Commissar of the Thought Police may think she is “empowering” women by unleashing her wrath against a TV personality who says something she considers offensive. But does this typical example of feminist bullying tactics actually help anyone?
Jubilee Sharpe says she has a “complicated past” — an orphan from Haiti adopted by an American couple — which she doesn’t think will be a “huge obstacle” to finding true love in the future. Who knows whether she is right or wrong? But why scold Chris Harrison for repeating the word she used to describe herself? It’s a TV show! It’s entertainment!
Is it really necessary — is it helpful to anyone — to turn a silly TV show into a Gender Studies seminar? And why is it wrong for Chris Harrison to imply (not that he actually said this) that “complicated” women are viewed negatively by men who are looking for wives? Is it not true that Jubilee Sharpe was involved in a lot of conflicts with her fellow contestants on the show? Isn’t this the sort of “complicated” behavior that guys want to watch out for when they’re assessing women? No matter how good-looking a woman is, do you want to get seriously involved with her if she doesn’t “play well with others”? This is just common sense.
Here’s some more common sense: Why is a tall, handsome, athletic, successful guy still a bachelor at age 26? A guy like that, you’d figure, he would already be married, or at least in a serious relationship. Do you think Ben Higgins might have a “complicated past,” too? “We dated for a year and a half before I broke up with him,” his ex-girlfriend told The Starlast year, and here’s a story saying Ben and his ex-girlfriend are still buddies, despite his engagement to Lauren Bushnell, the lucky “winner” of the Bachelor show. What’s the deal there, huh? What do you think the odds are that Ben and Lauren are going to be “happily ever after”?
A cynical attitude toward “reality TV” romance is certainly appropriate. You live long enough, you become cynical about a lot of things, including any woman who calls herself a “feminist.” Let the young man beware:Feminists hate you, and there is no point wasting your precious time on the kind of woman who likes to hang out with Gloria Steinem.
Happy heterosexual women don’t need feminism. They actually like men. They don’t blame their personal problems on innocent men. Happy heterosexual women don’t sit around crying about their “body image” issues. They take responsibility for their own lives and solve their own problems. They don’t guzzle tequila at frat parties, pass out and wake up the next day with some dude whose clever line was, “Nice tattoo.” Whatever her problems or disadvantages in life may be, the happy heterosexual woman does not need ideology to rationalize her failures. She does not lash out at men as scapegoats for her resentments.
This is why the feminist is always either (a) unhappy or (b) not heterosexual. Young men should recall this advice:
Guys: Learn to take a hint. Learn to walk away.
If a woman tells you she is a feminist, say nothing and walk away.
No feminist wants to hear what a man has to say, and life is too short to waste your time taking to feminists. Just walk away.
Leave feminists alone, and then they can complain about that.
Honestly, guys, you never want to be Inside Amy Schumer.